When Elders Do Not Accept Outside Caregivers in the Home

When Elders Do Not Accept Outside Caregivers in the Home

When Elders Do Not Accept Outside Caregivers in the Home The occasional news report of elder abuse on TV or in the papers is enough to frighten many people away from seeking outside help for loved ones in their homes. It’s understandable. But the truth is that these incidences are relatively rare, particularly when a reputable company is engaged to provide the person in need of care with a caregiver suited to his or her particular needs. In the next article, I address the questions that one should ask when hiring a Home Health Care Agency. Asking the right questions is a great first step toward gaining a level of comfort with the idea of having an outsider in your home. Sometimes, however, the reason that elders don’t want or won’t accept outside help has little or nothing to do with the honesty, sincerity or pure motive of the caregivers that might be selected. Sometimes it is the elder’s insecurities stemming from the facts of their own situation that is causing the difficulty. In other words, if the caregiver were Mother Theresa reincarnated, these fears would not be entirely alleviated. Let me explain. Consider that to many elders, the presence or need for an outside caregiver represents the first step of a downhill slide toward complete dependence on others. It is, in many ways, the same reason that some people shun the idea of retirement–fear that changing the daily routine somehow accelerates a decline. In other cases, it may be that the idea of an outside caregiver is somehow a statement that their own family doesn’t love them enough...